In the streets and neighborhoods of South Chicago, Baltimore, New York City, Los Angeles, Ferguson Missouri, West Philly, Johannesburg, Nigeria and everywhere Africans happen to inhabit, when observed closely and carefully, we find the same mode of existence. The touchy prides, hair-trigger violence, sloven lifestyles and squalor-like standards of living are not comparable, but identical. The attitudes and temperaments extend to African “parenting”, which contributes tremendously to the cycle of decadence and incivility greater society is forced to either accept or deal with. The article cited here epitomizes the revolting mindset of Africanism as it relates to parenting; particularly the role of African mothers.
At first read, yes, the title of the article informs us about the zeitgeist of the African “community” (there is no community and the article demonstrates why). The African female (Double Whammy — double everything that is negative about African Culture) is the worst female on the planet—to date, marry, have kids with, parenting etc.—and the reason for the abject failures the African male and female are. She is the progenitor of dysfunction and irresponsibility and the title of the article, “Dear Adult Children, Your Parents Don’t Owe You Anything”, captures her views on motherhood. On the contrary, they are very much owed. At the very least, an apology for poor parenting.
Being privy to Africanism and its destructiveness; it being a force for everything negative and making no accommodations for anything uplifting and positive, you will furnish your knowledge on the socio-cultural customary practices of hunter gatherers, after reading the aforementioned article. Not only do children not have a say or a choice in the matter of being born, they are subjected to the shirking of responsibilities of their African parents. They are victims of low parental investment —proximal abandonment and neglect—the consequences are the joining of gangs, high sexual precocity and teenage pregnancies and other destructive behaviors. We know the rest from there. This kind of apathy towards child-rearing is inveterate to the African hunter gatherer. It can be found on the savannas and in the jungles of Africa among the differing tribes. It is the imprint of primitivism—destructiveness—that African culture breeds. (Please see the r/K selection and reproductive strategies, also known as Life Hostory Theory).
If the myopic view displayed in the article was not enough, the author champions feminism which subtly teaches women (African women in this case) that pregnancy is an illness; adjusting its focus on the general and main preoccupation of women—vanity—that pregnancy makes them look like a “pregnant hobo”. The author then attempts to inveigle her readers with a warped sense of appreciation for parents, suggesting “they do not owe us anything” and by muddling the differences between “expectations ” and “entitlement”. To suggest that Africans have a responsibility to their offspring and to society, to do things for them, to ensure they have a healthy upbringing, and to set the stage for a successful future, is somehow lost on the author. Instead, African children needing these things or even demanding them of their parents is seen as acting “entitled”. Being parented is seen as a privilege—unnatural and to be earned—and this socio-cultural outlook is perpetuated among them even though injurious.
It is quite apparent that the African is oblivious to the stages of mental and social development in their offspring. They do not comprehend that proper parenting changes form; when should the tough love be implemented and when do entitlement end and expectations begin—when is entitlement acceptable, when does the weaning off process start and when does entitlement become abolished? Furthermore, how are these entitlements and expectations validated or invalidated in the child? By what reasoning processes? More importantly, it is worth noting that the African’s methods of child-rearing is best suited for an environment that requires breeding for aggression. The African’s way of child-rearing is suited for a primitive society and understanding the aforementioned stages of development is necessary for modernity and a civilized societal setting—the African’s socio-cultural evolutionary imprint is at enmity with modernity and civilized society. for Africans do all these stages in reverse to the detriment of us all. During the stages of development when the child is entitled to its mother’s affections and coddling, they are ignored and neglected. As they grow older they are expected to fend for themselves and be autonomous in the preadolescent and adolescent years. At the stage of development when entitlement should have ceased and accountability taught, young African adults are coddled and their poor behavior excused—”he was a good boy” and teenage pregnancies are seen as a badge of honor.
For the greater good of society, Africans need to be taught how to parent, since it does not come naturally. If not, African “parenting” will continue the cycle of breeding a cesspool of dysfunction, violent crime and failure, proving that different races build different societies. I certainly hope these African parents comprehend that there is no return on their investments, either. Their children do not owe them anything as well. Touché!